FAQ

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  • I see people from ages 19+ of all different backgrounds, experience levels, religions, physical abilities, sizes, sexual orientations, genders etc. What all my clients have in common- a mutual level of respect, are looking forward to sharing a connection and having a great time!

    I also love seeing couples! For more information, please see my couples page

    If you’re interested in the kinky side of things, please see my kink page

    • New Connections

    I’m delighted you’re choosing to spend time with me! Please read through all the FAQ’s and head over to my booking form. If you don’t want to fill out the form, that’s okay. You may email me at ValerieHarlan@proton.me with the answers to ALL the questions AND your screening information.

    If you don’t have a Proton account already, I highly recommend getting one. It’s free to sign up and ensures that our communications are encrypted.

    • Established Connections

    Send me an email or text and let’s set something up! Deposits are still required and I’ll do my best to accommodate a same day request.

  • Screening is a step that is necessary for both of our safety. If there is a third person joining us, they must also screen. Any information shared is confidential. I take 2 forms of screening.

    If I am touring/traveling Option A is the most efficient way to complete this process.

    • Option A: A selfie of you holding your government issued ID and a form of employment verification or secondary verification with your name and photo visible.

    • Option B: 2 or more references from upscale, independent providers you have seen in the last 6 months that have active ads and a social media presence. I will ask for their ad, social media account and a method of contact. I need all 3 of these pieces of information, don’t make me hunt it down. Please allow 72 hours or more for references to respond.

    If your references do not respond in a timely manner, ID/work verification will be required to continue planning our date.

  • Deposits are required to confirm our date after the screening process has been completed and are paid through CashApp. Instructions will be sent via email at this step.

    If I am booking an in-call space, the amount will be added to the deposit. (this will vary depending on location, date length & time of day)

    NYC dates- 20% deposit

    Tour, Travel and Extended dates (8+ hours)- 50% deposit (+ full travel & lodging if applicable)

  • NYC

    72 hours- the deposit may be applied to a future rebooking within 30 days

    48 hours- 50% cancellation fee

    24 hours- 100% cancellation fee

    Tour/Travel/Extended

    1 week- the deposit is considered the cancellation fee

    Less than a week- 100% cancellation fee

    If I’m seeing you on a tour, my goal will be to reschedule during that time. Please note that it might not always be possible, but give me as much notice as you can and I’ll see what I can do.

    If I have to cancel for any reason, you have the choice of transferring the deposit to a new booking within 30 days or an immediate refund.

    I will always do my best to reschedule a date if something changes. However, if there are more than 2 reschedule requests, our date will be cancelled and the deposit kept for time invested in planning.

  • Hygiene

    • Personal hygiene is not only respectful, but mandatory. When we meet it’s expected that you have brushed your teeth, showered and taken care of any other personal grooming appropriate for the activities we are about to do. I take time and effort to present my best self to you, be respectful and do the same.

    • If you’ve had a busy day, that’s okay! There will always be a bathroom and shower available for you to freshen up in.

    • I will lovingly remind you to wash your hands! With soap! I will also be washing mine! We touch a lot of things in this world, let’s keep one another healthy.

    Boundaries

    • Everyone has personal boundaries and comfort levels. Just as I will respect and honor yours, I expect you do the same with mine.

    • If I feel uncomfortable or disrespected at any time, I will end our date. There will be no refund.

    Consideration

    • The consideration be presented at the start of our time together.

    • If we are meeting in a public place, please have the consideration in an envelope, a book, a gift bag etc for discretion.

    • If we are meeting in a private space, please leave the consideration in an unsealed envelope on the bathroom counter upon arrival (this can also be when you wash your hands/freshen up at the start of our date).

    Gifts

    • If you’re the type to show affection through gifts, they also happen to be my top love language. While never expected, a little something extra always warms my heart (and loins). Please see my wishlist page for more details.

  • I am happy to provide you with a reference if we have seen one another in the last 6 months.

    It is appropriate to ask for 1 reference per date.

    Please give me a heads up that you are using me as a reference! Just like screening, this is for both our safety. I need consent from you in order to give you a reference.

    If you have my phone number, keep it between us please. The method of contact to be shared for reference requests is my email, ValerieHarlan@proton.me

  • “Valerie, I’m so busy in my day to day life but I want to have an adventure with you. Will you plan a date for us?”

    Absolutely! Just as I love having dates planned for me, I’m happy to take the planning off your plate.

    I’ve already put together some pre-planned date ideas here. If you’re outside of NYC and/or want me to plan something from scratch, I have a non-refundable $100 planning deposit that will be deducted from your total date deposit.

  • I love dressing up and take pleasure in dressing for whatever our date entails. My date outfits lean towards a classic silhouette/slightly conservative. If you’d like an artistic flair, I’m happy to wear something more revealing or one of my vintage pieces (if it’s appropriate for the occasion).

    If there’s a particular outfit you’ve seen on my Twitter or in my gallery, feel free to ask if it’s available! If you’ve seen it on my wishlist, I’m happy to accept that gift and bring it to our date. If there’s something you’d like to see me in but I don’t own, you’re welcome to ask my sizes and bring it for me to wear for you.

  • Double the trouble and twice the fun! Please inquire for the password to my page of preferred friends via my booking form.